September 15, 2015

Open for 2015 {Week 35}

I delight greatly in the Lord;
my soul rejoices in my God.
For he has clothed me with garments of salvation
and arrayed me in a robe for righteousness,
as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest,
and a bride adorns herself with her jewels.
Isaiah 61:10

But may the righteous be glad and rejoice before God;
may they be happy and joyful.
Psalm 68:3

Do these verses describe you?  Does your heart overflow with delight, rejoicing, happiness, and joy, because GOD and what He has done in your life?

After reading the Isaiah verse Tuesday morning, I stopped, my soul gasping for breath.  I couldn't think of many times during a common week that my demeanor is overtaken by delight and rejoicing because God has saved me.  All I could think was, Man, I want to live like THAT!

A handful of days later, again in the darkness of the early morning, I was gut-punched by Psalm 68:3.  The psalmist prays that the righteous will be glad and rejoice, happy and joyful.  Boy, I do not know if that can describe me, I thought.  I sure do spend a lot of my time planning out my life, thinking about myself, or complaining!

Right away, feeling so delightfully stunned, I knew I wanted to write to you all about this.  You know what these verses communicate to us?  I'll tell you.

God's people should be full of praise for their God!

And another thing:

We can become people full of praise for their God!

Being OPEN this week meant doing two things.

  • First, asking myself, Do praise and rejoicing in my God-initiated, God-enabled, and God-completed salvation characterize my life?   Most of the time, the answer is no.
  • Second, trusting God can change me by giving delight and rejoicing a go.  Salvation does not often come up in day-to-day conversations, and I do not have to live in some bizarre euphoria all the time.  But I can seize moments the when the Spirit moves to invite those around me to wonder with me at the goodness of God and to stand in awe of His work of salvation of otherwise-helpless souls.

Oh Lord, as the Psalmist prayed, may we - those who are righteous because of what you have done in our lives - be glad and rejoice before you, and be happy an joyful.  Thus you will receive your due and sinners will be drawn to seek you.  Have your way in us, Lord.  In Jesus' name, Amen.

Time to Take Action:
Is your life marked by praise?  Do you daily give thanks and rejoice that God has saved you from the dominion of darkness and brought you into the Light?  Do you ever thank God that He is and praise Him because He is worthy?  Every moment of every day, the Christian has cause for rejoicing!

Now, raise your hand if you need to ask the Lord to forgive you for taking His mercy, love, and presence for granted.   Yup.  I have my hand up, too.  Confess and be forgiven (1 John 1:9), then take some time to make a list of praise and thanksgiving to God.  Give being glad and rejoicing before God a go.  That is worship.  Worship becomes the people of God!

September 11, 2015

Open for 2015 {Week 34}

With much rejoicing, the past week was not a Pushback week and my children were back to normal levels of disrespect and disobedience!  Seriously, though, whatever was possessing them for those few days did pass and life has not been as intense.  I am grateful.

Since calm was restored, the Lord decided it would be a good time to bring up something I need to face, but usually don't know what to do with.  I am a terribly judgmental person.  Every situation I encounter I immediately make assumptions and conclusions that influence how I interact in the environment.  My pride causes me to fear or pity, feel inadequate or self-righteous.  Hopefully at least one of you dear readers can relate to what I'm talking about!  (Though, for your sake, I do hope none of you are not as proud and stubborn as I am.)

I struggle to keep loving others at the forefront, because I have such great affection for my opinions and, well, myself!  Usually the way I deal with this sin is by feeling bad about how awful I am and making some useless vow to try not to judge people in the future.  You can laugh; I think it's laughable too.  Self-pity and self-help can't bring lasting change.  Another way I've tried to address it in the past is by meditating on verses about not judging others.  The Bible's always a good idea, right?  But again, I use the verses to try to make the change myself.

Friends, we need more than words to transform us.  We need The Word!  I mean, I often size up people and situations before I know what I'm doing; there's no time to think about whether or not I'm going to choose God's way or mine.  My will is so quick to assert itself!  Have you noticed that about habitual, ingrained sin?  It's so hit-and-run, leaving us feeling battered, guilty, and confused.

The Good Lord was helping me to think thought these things this week and moving me toward being OPEN to some new ways of thinking about this particular issue.  Because, see, I really do love people and want to become one of those folks who loves everyone with the love of Christ and who values them over and above her own opinions and insecurities.  I firmly believe God can make such transformations in us if we remember a couple of things:

  • God loves me.  If we belong to God though faith in Christ, we are His child.  No longer orphans looking for love in all the wrong places, we are secure in His family!  There is no reason to fear abandonment or to look for love based on our behavior.  Remembering who we are in Christ - while we were still sinners He died for us - protects us from the insecurity or superiority that pride offers us as the only ways to relate to others.  We are LOVED!
  • Repentance is a life-long practice.  This brought me such hope this week.  I felt God saying to my weary, sinful soul, Hey, when you catch yourself in sin, repent!  I forgive.  What comfort!  I may not be able to catch myself before I start making judgments, but when I notice what I'm doing, I can quickly shoot a prayer up to heaven:  Lord, forgive me for my sinful habit and use this situation to your glory, not mine.  Repentance draws us near to God and to others.

I must be off this morning, but have been dying to share this with you this week, because I know some of you get stuck like I do.  Hopelessness can settle in quick!  But with the Lord, there is always hope.  Redemption and restoration are kinda His thing.

Know peace, today, friends. You are not alone, will never be abandoned, and any moment is a great moment to repent and believe the good news!

Time to Take Action:

Here are some great verses for meditation.  The way I have the one section memorized is this, but with you there is forgiveness, therefore you are feared.  Let relating to God in humble repentance be the beginning of transformation.  I'm gonna be doing that right along with you!  It is good, good, good, good news that the Lord keeps no record of sins.  I mean, seriously, who could stand?!

Out of the depths I cry to you, Lord;
Lord, hear my voice.
Let your ears be attentive
    to my cry for mercy.
If you, Lord, kept a record of sins,
    Lord, who could stand?
But with you there is forgiveness,
    so that we can, with reverence, serve you.
I wait for the Lord, my whole being waits,
    and in his word I put my hope.
~Psalm 130 1-5

September 4, 2015

Open for 2015 {Week 33}

Last week was what I'll call a Pushback Week.  For several days almost everything I asked the kids to do was met with opposition.  Something was not right and I was not sure I had the stamina - or kindness in my heart - to outlast it.  I'm typing here today, so you know I did, but in the midst of it I was not confident!

Knowing that I was reaching my breaking point, (meaning I wanted to scream and yell a lot, give my children life-long consequences, and tell them they could never come out of their rooms, ever), it occurred to me that perhaps it was time to consider being OPEN.  I could not change my kids' hearts,  but what did God want to happen in me?  How could I use these trying days to take a deep breath and trust the Lord to use them to increase the fruit of His Spirit in me?

I wish I could say that, after those holy thoughts, I kept my cool every moment and gently guided each one child his or her moments of frustration, willful disobedience, and anger.  I cannot.  But I can say, Praise be to God who uses being a parent to remind me how He loves me when I am ungrateful and discontent, unlovable and disagreeable.

Like I said, it was not a stellar week for me either; I am weak and a work in progress, just like my children.  But when one is interrupted by grace in the middle of a Pushback Week, the best she can be is thankful.  Who is this God we serve who is so slow to anger and abounding in love?  Our Redeemer--the LORD Almighty is his name-- is the Holy One of Israel.

Have a good weekend with Him!

PS Most of the time, I think my kids are the coolest creatures in the world.
Here we are pretending we're on a wild magic carpet ride!

August 27, 2015

Open for 2015 {Week 32}

Hey folks!  I really feel like I've got nothin' for ya this week, so we'll see how this post unfolds.  Being out of the blogging routine has me forgetting to look for ways the Lord wants me to be OPEN.  I wonder what I've missed!  In January, for accountability, the routine, and the fun, I committed to blogging twice a week, Tuesdays and Thursdays.  Summer as utterly derailed me!  Perhaps the fall will revive the routine.

Thankfully good things have been taking the place of writing. August has been a peaceful, low-commitment month with the family, and I've been enjoying more regular reading, exercise, and Bible study.  We resumed school early this year so we could keep hosting Monday morning playgroup, so we're nearing the end of week three.  Speaking of which, can I just give God a big word of praise for how He is bringing moms and little ones into our home every week?  I am in awe and so thankful!

Last week, I finished up Purity of the Heart is to Will One Thing, by Soren Keirkegaard.*  I joked with my husband that now I feel like I'm off the hook for reading anything for, like, a year.  Serious brain-stretcher!  Suddenly in the middle of a day I'll be thinking about some theme from the book that snaps me out of over-focus on the temporal and on myself.  Kierkegaard talked so much about "the Eternal," i.e. God, and the many ways we think of Him wrongly or deal with Him deceptively or fail to comprehend that none of life is to be lived in comparison to anyone else.  The latter point is the one that really gets me.  Kierkegaard rightly, but painfully, reminds the reader in the closing chapters of the book that when all is said and done, it will be each individual before God.  We are each responsible to God.   He states, In eternity you as an individual will only be asked about your faith and about your faithfulness.  p 210

That's a real humdinger, isn't it?!

The thrust of the whole book is that to be pure in heart, we must forsake all double-mindedness will only one thing, the Good.  He gets the root of the idea from James 4:8,

Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

Kierkegaard flushes out the many ways we are double-minded: willing other things or pretending to will one thing but not, in fact, willing one thing.  And he argues that to will one thing, we need to be conscious of who we are, which means we need to have space in our lives for contemplation and confession.

While the text is convicting, it by no means leaves the reader feeling hopeless.  That reminds me of 2 Corinthians 7:10,

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.

Early in the book, he speaks of the two companions God gives us to help us on the narrow way of willing one thing: repentance and remorse.  It is the Lord who leads us to repentance that we might know better His love - He always forgives! - and desire more to live in His way.

Hm, I guess this speaks to being OPEN to purity of heart: to be transformed by God through quieting my mind, to be willing to acknowledge and confess my sin, to desire to will one thing.  For I do believe that as we move toward willing one thing, we walk into living life as we were designed to live it.

Time to Take Action:
I'll leave you with James 4:8 again and a couple of Kierkegaard quotes for personal meditation.
"Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded."
"Father in heaven!  What is man without Thee!  What is all that he knows, vast accumulation though it be, but a chipped fragment if he does not know Thee!  What is all of his striving, could it even encompass a world, but a half-finished work if he does no know Thee: Thee the One, who are one thing and who art all!"  p 31 (opening lines of the book) 
"For confession is a holy act, which calls for a collected mind.  A collected mind is a mind that has collect itself from every distraction, from every relation, in order to center itself upon this relation to itself as an individual who is responsible to God.  It is a mind that has collected itself from every distraction, and therefore also from all comparison.  For comparison may either tempt a man to an earthly and fortuitous despondency because the one who compares must admit to himself that he is behind many others, or it may tempt him to pride because, humanly speaking, he seems to be ahead of so many others."

There, that should keep us busy!  Blessed be the Eternal One, who is our Faithful Companion and Loving Father.  Come near to Him!

*Special thanks to my dad for giving me this book, many years ago!

August 20, 2015

Open for 2015 {Week 31}

Two things came together this past Sunday.  Our pastor is working through a summer-ending series called "What In the World is Going On?" addressing some major cultural issues and sharing how Christians can respond.  When I first saw the email about the upcoming topics, I shot him a quick note to say I'd be praying for his preparations and sermons.  I mean, really, who wants to tackle major cultural and political issues from the pulpit, or from anywhere for that matter.  (Have I mentioned I'm a conflict avoider?!)

Here's what has emerged from those sermons, now that we're three weeks in.  Pastor Hurley has reminded us over and over that regardless of how much it seems like evil is on the rise and/or winning, THERE IS A REDEEMER.  We have hope, life, joy, and peace to offer to anyone.  We have been saved from the pit of hopelessness, death, despair, and strife.  God has given us new, abundant, and eternal life in Christ.  As we walk along in this world, we can invite others to "Look up to the Redeemer!" with us.  Incredible.

Sunday morning, in addition to the pleasure of participating in worship, I started another three-week cycle teaching youth Sunday school.  The topic?  The Church.  I am very excited about this topic, as the Church (capital C, God's people all over the place and all over time) is a subject dear to my heart.  Even better than a great topic, though, was new insight from the curriculum!  The first lesson in each three-week grouping sets the stage, giving a big picture view.  For the Church, passages from the Old and New testaments were included to show the connection between God calling Abraham, then Israel, and later New Testament Christians.  God established His Church the moment he initiated a relationship with His people.  The lesson highlighted priestly language from both Exodus and 1 Peter.

Then Moses went up to God, and the Lord called to him from the mountain and said, “This is what you are to say to the descendants of Jacob and what you are to tell the people of Israel: ‘You yourselves have seen what I did to Egypt, and how I carried you on eagles’ wings and brought you to myself. Now if you obey me fully and keep my covenant, then out of all nations you will be my treasured possession. Although the whole earth is mine, you will be for me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.’ These are the words you are to speak to the Israelites.”

But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.

The commentary explained that the primary job of Israel's priests was to lead the people in worship.  So, if God calls His people a kingdom of priests and a royal priesthood, guess what the church should be doing in the world.  LEADING PEOPLE TO WORSHIP!  The Church is God's community of worship leaders!

I connect these two experiences - the sermons and the Sunday School lesson - because they both communicate the same message.  As God's people, our primary calling is to point people to God!  Like it says in 1 Peter, we can do this by declaring the praises of Him who called us out of darkness into His wonderful light!  We were orphans walking apart from the family of God; now we are His children!  We don't deserve mercy, but we have received it, from God, whose praise we can declare.

Maybe evangelism is really this simple:  "Hey, wanna 'look up' with me?  Check out the amazing God of the universe who makes orphans His children and wretches like you and me objects of His mercy!"  Or, like Philip said to a cynical Nathanael about Jesus, "Come and see!"

Being OPEN to do this means a few things:
  • "Looking up" to our Redeemer, every day, every moment.  We cannot share what we are not experiencing.
  • Looking back to remember how we needed redemption and the Lord was the rescuer.  We cannot sympathize with weakness if we forget our own.
  • Looking ahead because the Lord will come again.  We cannot be properly oriented if we forget that our eternity is secure and glorious, and will be here sooner than we think.

Time to Take Action:  I think the above list is enough to keep us busy, reflecting on how God has and does work in our lives and in our world!  God - Father, Son, and Holy Spirit - is so worthy of worship, but it is so easy to get lost in temporal trivialities.  Be encouraged by these words to worship and to invite others to get in on the action with you!  I know I sure have some practicing to do.  May God give us each opportunity to feel His intervention in our lives and to share with others how good it is to worship Him.

The peace of Christ be with you!

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August 14, 2015

Open for 2015 {Week 30}

Wow, August has done something to my blogging mojo!  My rhythm has been interrupted and I am having trouble getting back into it.  Nevertheless, here I am with very little to say for last week, except that it was a real treat.  My husband and I got to spend three days traipsing around Pittsburgh, just the two of us!*  Pretending we were young and carefree, we walked almost everywhere, ate loads of delicious food, and played around town like tourists.  So much fun!

What really made the time special, was thinking about our history.  On Monday we celebrated thirteen years of marriage.  Each of those years has its share of delightful memories and dreadful moments.  Married folks, can I get an 'Amen' on that?  How many times have we laughed in those years?  Too many to count.  How many times have we needed to forgive or be forgiven in those years?  Way too many to count!

Marriages are built day by day on the foundation of the commitment, the vow that was spoken before witnesses.  Man, it takes a lot of work!  Life never slows down.  We can't put our feet up for too long before there's another decision to make together or another obstacle to face hand-in-hand.  There are days we want to quit, because we're human.  But there are days we're so in love and happy, because while marriage takes work, it is not always work.

The glue that really holds this operation together, however, sustaining and providing all we need so we can keep on loving one another, is "the third strand."

Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
When it comes right down to it, neither Colin nor I, nor the two of us together, can take credit for these thirteen years.  God alone has kept our strands tightly woven together and we trust Him to do the same for however many more years, decisions, fun, and obstacles we have ahead of us.

What does any of this have to do with being OPEN?  I hadn't really thought about it in those terms last week, but I guess despite all that is behind us, I must be OPEN to pressing on in the commitment and to trusting the Lord to see us through whatever will come our way.  One of my friends, (Hi, Kristen!), said celebrating Anniversaries is funny because while it seems like you have arrived at something worth celebrating, you still have to keep doing the same thing "till death does you part."  An Anniversary is not an end, simply a milestone.  Anniversaries offer an opportunity to awe and wonder at what the Lord has done in sustaining a marriage through all of the mess and beauty!  What a time for thanks giving.

Time to take action:  Married folks, I don't know where you find yourself on the marriage-feelings spectrum today.   You may be in one of those blissful phases or you may be wondering if there is a way out.  No matter where you are, stop.  LOOK TO THE LORD and ask Him to OPEN your eyes to what He has done and what He is doing.  SEEK HIS FACE, asking Him to show you where you need to repent and to fill you with faith to believe He has not abandoned you and your spouse.  GIVE HIM THANKS even if it is hard.  He has not let you go; He will not let you go.

Before this day is through, do something just for your husband or wife, any large or small expression of love that God brings to mind!

*A shout out of thanks to my in-laws who took the kids for us for those days so we could pretend we were in our twenties again!

August 7, 2015

Open for 2015 {Week 29}

With the end of the musical the two older kids were in this summer, the end of July approaching, and the first stretch of sunny days, it finally felt like summer vacation started last week!  Since we finally had rehearsal-free days and almost nothing on the calendar, I decided the kids and I needed to have a vacation week.  We went to the pool almost every day, saw the Minion movie, played mini golf, enjoyed relaxed mornings at home, and spent a day at an amusement park with dad and grandparents.  Of course, in the midst of it we still had to grocery shop, wash clothes and dishes, prepare meals, and tidy the house now and then, but in the relaxed context of a "vacation week" even the chores didn't seem so daunting.   What a beautiful week it was!

I was so tickled to gaze on the blankness of the end of July and all of August calendar.  What peace for my frantic soul!  There was an opportunity for the kids to try out for the second summer play at the Playhouse, but for our sanity I made the decision not to let them try out.  My heart was a bit pained, knowing they would miss out on The Fantastic Mr. Fox, which is such a fun story.  But we have been working our way through the book Margin in Sunday School, and I knew Wisdom was telling me we needed to get back to family dinners and evenings together in August, before everything picks back up in the fall.  A margin in our time would provide that.  Of course, I was still disappointed I couldn't have my cake and eat it too: a peaceful schedule with play participation!

Mid-week, the temptation came.  I received a message from the previous show's director that there was still a need for actors for Mr. Fox.  Ooooh, such a great opportunity!  Should we just do it?  There is a need.  Maybe I was wrong about not participating.

Temptations don't have to be evil, you know.  There are many good things that can pull us away from what is best.  I knew the right thing was to decline the good thing for something better - something I needed, something the kids needed, something the family needed - a free August.  Remembering that our friends had not gotten a chance to try out, I told the director our kids were not available, but perhaps our friends were still interested.

Man, I really hate to feel like I am letting someone down.  And making decisions for your kids that are wise is not always easy; THERE ARE SO MANY COOL THINGS TO BE A PART OF!  Being open last week meant being willing to "choose the better over the good," a little phrase I heard someone share at a leadership training camp I went too way back in year 2000.

The biggest challenge is letting the Lord guide us in wisdom, so we can make decisions that honor Him.  I have gotten back into reading a chapter of Proverbs a day and I love how the opening chapters talk so much about wisdom and how good she is to those who seek her.  I will leave you with these verses from the beginning of Proverbs 2 for contemplation:
My son, if you accept my words
and store up my commands within you,
turning your ear to wisdom
and applying your heart to understanding—

indeed, if you call out for insight
and cry aloud for understanding,
and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure,
then you will understand the fear of the Lord
and find the knowledge of God.
For the Lord gives wisdom;
from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.

He holds success in store for the upright,
he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless,
for he guards the course of the just
and protects the way of his faithful ones. 
Then you will understand what is right and just
and fair—every good path.
For wisdom will enter your heart,
and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.
Discretion will protect you,
and understanding will guard you.

Time to Take Action:  Are you in the midst of needing to make some decisions right now for yourself or your family?  Ask the Lord for wisdom to see the better rise to the top over the good things.  Ask Him for the strength to say confident yeses and nos where needed.  And then trust Him, by making the decisions to which He guides you.  May He bless you as you seek Him!